“The road to success is not always straight.” These old words of wisdom couldn’t be more relevant when it comes to the body and turning someone on. Even if the obvious goal is right between the legs, it’s important to remember all those hot-spots on the body that can that can cause great stimulation and seriously make your lover (or soon to be lover) horny. We here at the Room Privée office in Sydney, Australia, decided to list 10 female erogenous zones that have proven to be real pleasure points. Learn this by heart, and the road to success might not be so complicated at all.
1. The mouth
A very underestimated part in many relationships. How much time do you really dedicate to your lover’s mouth? Her lower lip, her upper lip and the cupid’s bow (the double curve), the shape and textures… Usually, as a part of our sex life, we only use the mouth for kissing and to perform oral sex (obviously), but we tend to forget that the mouth is erogenous zone. “Lips are the most exposed of all erogenous zones, and are packed with a bunch of nerve endings located very close to the surface of the skin (they’ve got 100 times more than our fingertips),” says Emily Morse, sexologist and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. She furthermore encourages you to “use your own lips, teeth, and tongue to lick, nibble, and caress the top and bottom lip, experimenting with different amounts of pressure.”
2. Inside of the bend of the elbow and knee – or simply most areas of thin skin
These are often extremely sensitive and exciting areas when caressed, as they circulate enough blood vessels and can give wonderful pleasures from tickling and gentle strokes. This applies for both men and women, and these areas can also be found between the inner thighs, the arches of the feet, and even the biceps and areas around shoulder blades. Give those areas gentle strokes, kiss them, tickle them with a feather, and even adding few drops of sensual oil can turn into a magical experience.
3. Feet and ankles
It’s well known that the feet have endless nerve endings that affect the entire body. Hence, the popularity of foot massage which has been practiced for centuries for medical purpose, relaxing, and even as an erotic experience.
If this is something you generally like, go and have a foot massage and try to discover what are the main pleasure points on your own feet. But it would certainly be more fun to do this with your partner and caress their feet with affection and find what part on their feet is most sensual. Don’t forget to use a bit of warm oil with aromas to heighten the experience.
4. The earlobes
A light bite, a kiss, or a soft whisper in the ear can become one of the most exciting shivers of pleasure in the world! Bring to life the most sensitive feelings of your lover’s body with this small and cute body part, a game that can literally be played anywhere. At least, it’s hard to imagine someone being offended with you touching your lover’s earlobe wherever you are. Just do it at the next dinner party, at the movies, and turn your lover crazy completely unexpected.
Ok, maybe this one is quite obvious, but some people just need to hear it. The nipples are one of the most sensitive erogenous zones and so pleasurable for some women that they can even reach an orgasm by solely stimulating them. Each person is, of course, different and it varies greatly between individuals of how the nipples should be played with. We encourage you to start slowly and don’t pressure too hard, watch your lover’s reaction, listen to them moaning, and asking them what they like in order to please them the most. Remember, it’s about them!
Whether playing with the nipples is a part of a foreplay with a partner, or you squeeze them during solo play, caressing this area should simply be a requirement. If you’re feeling a little wild, you could use some nipple covers, or even nipple clips if you’re in a naughty mood. We dare you. We double dare you!
6. Lower back and the lumbar area
Have you ever tried putting a pillow under your lower back while you’re having sex or playing with yourself? You can use a pillow, a cushion, or even a towel, as the purpose is simply to raise this part of the body to naturally improve the degree/angle of penetration during intercourse or that of a vibrator like this one here. This way you will stimulate the G-spot much more easily. Give it a try and we bet it’ll become one your favourite tricks.
7. Play with temperature changes on the skin
It’s no myth that playing with cold/hot effects on the skin can be a huge turn-on. Use ice cube and gently glide it over you lover’s skin or play with aphrodisiac oils. Create an exciting experience by playing with the sensation of temperature as it can be quite stimulating for the whole body. It’s also a good idea of mixing this with some of the ideas mentioned here above and you’re guaranteed to take the lust to the next level.
8. Thighs and cheeks (lower cheeks of course)
Sometimes a good spanking on the butt can stimulate you in a surprising way, this of course applies for both men and women. It’s super exciting to fuel this sensation of both pleasure and pain that both partners can begin to like.
Have you never received a good slap on your butt during sex? If not, it’s certainly time for you to try something new! It can be fun to do it during foreplay as well as during sex, or simply on the sofa while you play with your partner and practice a little spanking. Use a flat hand, or even better, use a leather flogger or a whip for extra stimulation, such as this one here. It’s ok to be a bit naughty sometimes (or always…).
9. Hands and wrists
Time for you lover to understand who’s the master here. Tie ‘em up! Use erotic handcuffs, rope, or even a belt. Anything can work, as long as they can’t get away. Tying your lover will take you away from predictable love making as you will be tempted to try new things in your bedroom adventure while they’re completely at your mercy. Don’t hesitate to mix it up with a little spanking.
Your bedroom explorations will be taken to new heights of erotic excitement as you keep your naughty lover restrained and start by teasing and tickling all of their body with a flogger or a whip. Take the opportunity to blindfold them because then they have far more sensitivity to touch and everything you wish to do to them. Show ‘em who’s in charge.
A good way to start is to get yourself a beginner’s bondage set which pretty much includes all the essentials to start, like this one here. Remember, the sweetest smiles hold the darkest secrets.
10. Always give massage, not only at the beginning of a relationship
Here at Room Privée we’re sometimes baffled by how many couple only massage each other at the beginning of their relationship. It shouldn’t be like that, and we should continue this practice throughout our relationship. It can only do good.
Give your lover delicious massage from neck to butt. Slather a bit of good massage oil and slide your hands over them in waving movements applying different pressure and add all the love and creativity you can come up with. Because a good massage can always be a great stimulation and a beginning of a something wilder and more fun.