We open minded people are sometimes terribly surprised to hear all the myths and misunderstanding around masturbation. Still, in the 21stcentury, many still believe the old Catholic scare tactics which were specifically designed to keep people away from masturbating for the sake of “purity”. I know this sort of thinking seems distant to most of you sex positive minds, but as a Clinical Sexologist I have received multiple questions about masturbation that has revealed the fact that many still believe those myths, such as “masturbating makes you blind”. Really?!
So, let’s get into some myth-busing about masturbation.
1. Masturbating makes you blind
No it doesn't. This is one of the oldest and most resilient myths. For some reason, teenage boys are the ones most likely to hear this phrase, and since it’s been around for such a long time, many still reach out to get a clarification.
No, masturbating does not make you blind. Not teenage boys, not grown men, nor women of any age. Nobody can get blind from masturbating. Likewise, you won’t be able to see in dark by eating lots of carrots. However, getting some of that semen load into the eye could be uncomfortable, but you won’t become blind.
2. Masturbation can cause illness
Yes for sure! There are numerous cases of people who have dislocated their wrist during intense masturbation session… OF COURSE NOT!
However, many men can recall masturbating so much as teenagers that they got sore, and in some cases, their penis got tiny wounds and even a little bleeding. Masturbating until it bleeds… well, although it sounds bad, it definitely doesn’t have any long-term impact.
Also, it’s true that some people can get skin irritations due to intolerance to some lubricants, and for not washing their sex toys properly. Remember, always clean your toys before and after use with water and soap.
3. Women don’t need to masturbate
Sorry what?! 81% of people with vagina admit to having masturbated on occasion, so please let’s end this stupid myth at once. I’m girl, and I masturbate every EFFIN day :) Masturbation is simply a sexual technique that does good for everyone as so perfectly laid out in this article: 8 Reasons Why You Should Masturbate More.
Well ok, in general nobody needsto masturbate (if we’re getting strict on the actual definition of the verb “need”), i.e. nobody will actually die if they don’t masturbate. But it causes us pleasure and we just feel like doing it from time to time.
4. Women should never masturbate during their period
Please stop believing this nonsense right now, pretty please! Orgasm is a super powerful analgesic, so it’s actually great to orgasm when on your period. So, from one vagina owner to another, yes masturbate!
And by the way, same applies for headache :)
5. Masturbation makes you sterile
From the time they reach puberty until they die, men are a sperm factory. They can literally procreate in the thousands until the very last day. I.e. if the cannon still functions of course. But no, they are not going to run out of semen, and they will not become sterile with masturbation.
Women do have a certain number of eggs, but the egg count does not decrease with masturbation.
So no, masturbation does not make anyone sterile.
6. Masturbation can cause erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction can have several physical and psychological causes, but none of them is masturbation. So, if you or your partner is suffering from this, under no circumstances blame the problem on masturbation.
However, new research indicates that guys who watch much porn while masturbating can experience lack of interest in sex and suffer from erectile dysfunction when having sex in reality. Maybe you should consider this next time you load Pornhub looking for your favourite anal scene.
7. You enjoy sex less if you masturbate
Really…? Haven’t we learned anything? Masturbation makes you know yourself better. What you like, what you don’t like, what turns you on and what doesn’t etc. So therefore, you might actually enjoy sex more if you masturbate!
8. People in relationships do not masturbate
Clearly people have different personal experience when it comes to this. However, the more sex you have the more sex you feel like having. So, masturbation does not die with the relationship, but on the contrary the frequency might be maintained and even increased.
9. Using sex toys will reduce the desire to have sex with a partner
This stupid myth makes me angry! How many times have I stressed the beauty of incorporating sex toys into couple’s sex life? An external massager, glittering anal toys, bondage kits… There are literally thousands of toys to use as couples that can only increase your sexual desire!
10. Children who masturbate will be addicted to sex
No. They are simply curious. Many times, out of curiosity, children play with their genital organs. It’s maybe normal that as a parent, that if you enter the room and see your child looking down there that you start worrying. There’s no need for any worries, as it’s completely normal for your child to do so. Your little girl is not going to become a nymphomaniac, she’s just exploring her own body.
Everything clear now? Masturbation is wonderful.
So, go touch yourself!