Chances are you’ve heard about squirting. Potentially, because a little bird whispered in your ear, maybe you saw an episode of Californication, you watch porn, or you’re just one of the lucky ones to experience it first-hand.
If you’re not (yet) one of the lucky ones, there’s a possibility you’d like squirt or experience it with your partner.
After my last post about the G-spot I received numerous questions about squirting, so today I’ll give you few tips about how to start … Because, it’s highly likely that all women are capable of squirting “if their partner knows what they are doing” according to a recent study French study. Nevertheless, it’s definitely worth trying as the pleasure is quite something!
Squirting: Busting the myth
To start with, I think it’s important to bust a popular myth about squirting: Female ejaculation (or, rather vaginal ejaculation) and squirting is NOT the same thing; the organs and mechanisms that produce them are different.
Vaginal ejaculation is most common. At the time of orgasm, women release a kind of a whitish fluid that can be confused with lubrication from sexual arousal. It can also be released with urine, through the urethra, after sexual encounter. The Skene glands (sometimes called the female prostate) are responsible for the ejaculation which is typically thick and appears milky, where the amount of fluid will depend on their size.
So, what is squirting then?
Squirting happens with the stimulation of two key areas; a stream of transparent liquid is released through the urethra, which comes out of the bladder and is basically urine diluted with substances from the Skene glands. In fact, there are convincing evidence that squirting is chemically similar to urine, and also containing small amounts of prostatic-specific antigen (usually referred to as PSA) that is present in men’s ejaculate. Yes … you read that right … and in all fairness most women have never experienced squirting, and some of those who have did so unexpectedly and even felt embarrassed.
Now you are likely wondering how you can squirt. Well, those who have experienced it say that it’s achieved through vigorous stimulation of the G-zone and sometimes also the clitoris.
It is important that you know, that squirting does not necessarily mean that you will have more powerful orgasm, it’s simply one more sexual manifestation. So, don’t fall into despair if you’re not able to.
Now that’s been cleared up, so how to start squirting then?
Here are some tips to help you get started and increase the likelihood of experiencing squirting.
- Relax: First of all, you must be convinced that you want to squirt, so relax your mind and let yourself go. You can try to breathe slowly for few minutes and focus on the breathing, sort of like when meditating. Another trick that works wonders is to focus on how your sexual partner touches you, i.e. truly focus on their tender touches, light kisses etc. in order to get more stimulated.
- It’s a journey: Sometimes we care so much about the actual goal – i.e. to squirt – that we forget to enjoy every second of the sexual experience itself. Being too focused on gettering there can deprive us of having a good time and, consequently, taking us further away from our goal.
- Lubricant: Since you’re already in a mission to squirt, where your best friend will be your G-spot (G-zone), do not reject extra help from good lubricant. It will make the whole thing easier to start with.
- Stimulate your G-zone: You can do it with your fingers, your partners penis, or with a special G-spot sex toy. When you stimulate your G-zone there will always be trial and error, i.e. you will have to figure out what works best for you; change rhythm and the way you stimulate the G-zone. I personally recommend this cute friend which has been a best-seller in its category for years, thanks to its ergonomic design with curved tip and perfect size to get the job done.
- Do not forget the clitoris: Squirting requires teamwork between the G-zone and the clitoris. So, when stimulating your G-zone don’t forget to give love to your lovely clit … listen to it and touch it when it demands so…
- Don’t stop if you feel like urinating: When stimulating the G-zone and aiming for squirting, it’s almost guaranteed you’ll feel like you have to urinate. DON’T STOP THEN! It’s normal to have that feeling and you should take it as a clue that you’re on the right track :)
If you’re with a partner, there are some positions that are more effective in direct stimulation of the G-zone. Note, if your partner is female, then you can just as well use a strap-on such as this one for the same results:
- Doggy-style: By far the best position to stimulate the G-zone because of pressure given directly on the front wall of the vagina, reaching the G-zone and stimulating it repeatedly.
- Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl: A great way to stimulate the G-zone because you can move your hips and adapt for comfort. You can lean forward or backward, adjust the speed and also apply extra pressure on the G-zone as you prefer.
- Butterfly: This one gently stimulates the G-zone is also a lovely position for women who like deep penetration.
I sincerely hope these recommendations will be useful for you to know where to start… The mission for your weekend is clear :)